As for me, I admit the idea of him coming back is slightly frightening. I never asked him to. Not once. I told him the door was open but wanted him to do it in his own time. I'm not sure if the time is right or not. But I can't make the decision for him and I didn't. I will recommend that we make a room for him to retreat to. Not sure if he'll want to do that but I think it would be wise. I think he will need some alone time to work through things. All I can do now is continue to work on myself and be an inspiration to him through my actions and my work. I hope he can make it through this. The fact that he's gained some significant self perspective is encouraging.
Here goes nothing....
When my H moved back in - there were pros and cons. It was nice having someone HELP me with everything (really nice), but I felt wierd sometimes, like this was MY house now and he was visiting. We were back to watching what HE wanted on TV and as silly as it sounds, my baby boy (Tug, my puppy boxer)was not listening to me anymore but my H
H would also fall into his "pre" bomb-drop self (this is when his affair was a secret, and he would find anything and everything wrong with me and what I do to justify what he was doing with OW). I wasn't buying the right food at the store, the pizza I ordered had too many mushrooms, the laundry was backed up...
it doesn't go in one ear and out the other anymore. I listen to every word he says, and I know I don't have to put up with it anymore.
So my only observation I give to you is that him moving back in might be more difficult than you imagine. be prepared.
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
