"and it bothers her when we have sex and i leave and dont contact her"

This should bother you as well. Start working on the emotional spark along with the physical, and the D will be forgotten.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER