Turned a corner

[MrBond]

"Just looked at FB and he posted a picture of a new car with a caption that says "Happy Birthday, OW!!!

He has no idea that I am on to this weekend. He knows that I suspected something between them. He told me no, so I never mentioned to him again."

So what about this? DO NOT discount your instincts. You'll often find out they're right on the money.

The reason why he cries could be for a number of reasons. If he is going through a MLC, he's re-evaluating his choices and thinks his life is f*cked up. He feels he has made the "wrong" decision and is wondering how to fix them. Maybe he actually feels guilty for hurting you. He could be feeling ineffectual as a man for not being able to take care of things. All sorts of things.

Whatever the reason, the only thing YOU need to worry about is you. These are things only HE can figure out. This isn't about you. It is about him.

It all comes down to one thing: Personal Responsibility

Unless he takes responsibility for HIS actions instead of blaming you or anything else around him, then there can be no R. If there isn't that acceptance of his actions by him, the issues will keep coming up again and again.

Stick to building yourself up. YOU have to outshine everything else he sees right now. You have to be the positive force that guides him. Like a moth to a flame. You need to be the flame that burns the brightest.