Maybe he dumped her destroyed her new found self confidence and now she is using me to build it back up to make her think she is sexy again. Who knows im just speculating cause i really have no idea.
Maybe Santa really lives in the South Pole and not the North. Maybe? Perhaps? Possibly? Words that will hurt you under the wrong circumtances. Work with what you know.
IF what you think becomes reality then deal with them.
Sandi ur question about the physical affair i talked to my lawyer. She say she believes there was one but it has ended and my W is afraid i will find out about it, i will divorce her anyway and use it against her to get custody of our son.
Here the thing, John....if she's been in a PA then she could be covering any chance of pregnancy from her A. That's what I meant by using you. Then she can recall your memory to when you had the wild sex or a weekend together and try to make you believe it's your baby......"if" she were to show up pregnant in a few days. You can't take her word about not having a PA. Don't ask her anymore. It's not going to make her be any more honest with you.
Tread lightly, my friend. I think it might be to your best if you kept some safe distance.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Well were are going out again tonight. She says we can talk about everything. Have no idea what she wants to talk about so I guess ill see. All I'm gonna do is try to be sweet to her she her the new me and see if dhe will put the divorce on hold for right. We talked about it the other night and she said she didn't know. Guess that's better than no.
Well we went out saturday night and once again had passionate sex. she still wants the divorce to go thru but wants us to date and if everything goes well we can go to the courthouse and renew our vows. she says she definitely sees a change in me but if have changed so many times before and after were back together i go right back to the old ways.
We had a long conversation that evening and she started saying things like do u remember when we were coming home from the beach and we stopped in the woods and had sex. lol maybe since ive backed off she is remembering the good things in our marriage.
"she still wants the divorce to go thru but wants us to date and if everything goes well we can go to the courthouse and renew our vows."
This is a cop out. The D won't do anything to change the sitch. IMO, keep up the positive interactions so that she stops thinking about D. DO NOT bring up R talks. DO NOT backslide into your angry ways. You're on a roll so far. Keep it up.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
but bond i do think is she was that sure of wanting to go thru with it and not stop it she wouldn't be having interactions with me period. If she had someone else she definitely wouldn't be having sex with me
