Guess I haven't posted any of my own adventures in a bit. I had forgotten that my W is still a WAS, so some of the things she has said surprised me until I realized she's still in a fog. For instance, she still spends time with OM going to movies, dinner etc., but she was somewhat freaked out when she was out with OM and saw some co-workers. She didn't want any rumors to start. Hello? Yet she also told her C that on our upcoming trip, I'm the only one she trusts to keep her safe while going out at night. That the two of use have the closest interests in terms of travel. C asked her "well, what does that tell you?"
Enough about her, it's all about me now Moved into apt this weekend and W helped with everything but mattress and couch. Spent a lot of time talking and drinking on Sat. She did most of the talking and I listening. One thing drove me a little crazy though. On Fri I asked if she wanted to see a local band after our soccer game. She said she had plans to see band with OM. Of course I was angry, but rather than lash out or say something stupid I kept quiet. Next day, W's complaint was that she knew I was angry but I didn't say anything. I need to talk more. I agreed with her, but inside thought that I was in a catch-22. The clue by 4 I needed was having expectations (though she did mention to me Wed she wanted to see band). Not sure what I could have said Fri night that would have helped us along.
Some positives for me from this weekend. Apt is mostly set up; tv, internet, Wii/streaming movies. Friend who helped me move bed/couch is newly engaged. At one point I told him "let me give you some advice from someone who f'd up two M," and he replied "you didn't f up this M". Also got a big hug from MIL after returning her minivan from the move, telling me she knows how hard it must be for me. Finally, apt is near a major university and the campus cuties are already out jogging by. Can't wait for spring!
Finally, have to say that it was a little weird in the new apt last night, but I wasn't sad at all, just a little numb maybe. Slept well too. Good start so far...
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
Moved into apt this weekend and W helped with everything but mattress and couch. Spent a lot of time talking and drinking on Sat. She did most of the talking and I listening. One thing drove me a little crazy though. On Fri I asked if she wanted to see a local band after our soccer game. She said she had plans to see band with OM. Of course I was angry, but rather than lash out or say something stupid I kept quiet. Next day, W's complaint was that she knew I was angry but I didn't say anything. I need to talk more. I agreed with her, but inside thought that I was in a catch-22. The clue by 4 I needed was having expectations (though she did mention to me Wed she wanted to see band). Not sure what I could have said Fri night that would have helped us along.