...the teacher appears

[sage]

Zoo --

I think that the R talk that you and H had was a good thing. Scary yes, but from what you describe of his actions afterward it sounds like it was something HE needed to do too. Awesome that you were able to de-personalize it too and digest it without it becoming overwhelming

Thanks for this h's actions post talk have been AMAZING and I'm taking them as a positive sign that he viewed the talk as a good thing. It's SO hard, though, to not get caught up in making ASSumptions or leaps of understanding...my h is very literal and encourages me to NOT read into what he says...I tend to put the occasional "spin" on things (duh)...so hearing him articulate his continued what -- confusion? ambivalence? fears? is well, scary.

I have limited myself to staying in Piecing and only replying to a certain # of threads. I read more then I reply to but I find that I don't get caught up so easily as long as I just stick to reading...I guess because I don't have to think as hard as I do when I reply

Yes, it makes me a little sad that I can't get as involved as I would like to...I owe a great deal to this forum...butit was the only compromise I could come up with that worked, otherwise I might have left the BB altogether It might be a solution you could try as well?

yah...I think I need to come to grips with the "fact" that due to limited time AND limited PMA that I need to accept NOT giving out more than I am right now.

Sage