I walked into the house yesterday afternoon and it hit me like a brick. I broke down for a couple of minutes but then picked my head back up. My mother and I immediately cleaned and arranged the house to look comfortable.
I then had to drive down the street to give my S to my W for the night. Kept the exchange brief and confident.
Last night, my mother and I went to dinner and had a couple of margaritas. I then got home and opened a bottle of wine. Spent hours with my mother just talking. I probably told her too much but oh well. She already knew quite a bit, and the stuff I did tell her was just back story.
Woke up with a slight hangover just in time to make it to mass with my mother. We then ran a few errands.
My wife was given a potted ficus tree from her dying grandmother that we have kept for years that has not been doing to well and needing a transplant. Tree means a lot to my W, but pregnancy and child birth has given tree some neglect. BTW, the tree has a name. Her name is Molly. Short for tamale. Long story, but W's grandmother had a caregiver that made the best tamales. He took care of this tree for years but passed soon after her grandmother. Anyway, my mother has the greenest of thumbs, so we took care of it today and gave this tree an ER operation. We did a pretty good job and tree is already looking better.
While we were out, my mother asked if it would be okay is she could give my W a small house plant with a note. My mother is very religious and spiritual. She just wanted to tell my W that she knew that we were going through some rough times, but that she is praying for us and wishes that God provides strength to her in her self discovery. Although, my W and I are not nearly as spiritual, I thought the sentiment was very nice coming from my mother. My W and I have already had the conversation that she feels that she will never be able to face my family again, and that she fears my parents. Although this was not a complete peace offering, I think it shows my W that there is no anger involved at least from my mother.
W came over to drop off S and pick a few things up. She was very happy to see Molly looking better. She was very thankful. I told her that I would take good care of her. She then saw the plant and note. She was very surprised but wanted to me to thank my mother for her. She did not read the card in front of me, but she took it home with her. No mention yet how she feels about it.
S is getting his first ever cold, so W is super sad tonight. We exchanged about a thousand texts tonight about him. I told her that I would take good care of him tonight and for her to try and get some sleep and take care of herself tonight.
Everything for me the last couplesof days has been very surreal and sad. I hope I can rebound tomorrow and get a good start on the week ahead.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
