Welcome Back Sage

I think that the R talk that you and H had was a good thing. Scary yes, but from what you describe of his actions afterward it sounds like it was something HE needed to do too. Awesome that you were able to de-personalize it too and digest it without it becoming overwhelming

About the BB... I ran into the same things you have described virtually EVERYTIME I tried going into Newcomers to read posts there I finally had to stop reading on that forum altogether just to keep from second-guessing myself constantly. A few of the steps I tumbled backwards were due in part to getting too caught up in those posts. I have limited myself to staying in Piecing and only replying to a certain # of threads. I read more then I reply to but I find that I don't get caught up so easily as long as I just stick to reading...I guess because I don't have to think as hard as I do when I reply

Yes, it makes me a little sad that I can't get as involved as I would like to...I owe a great deal to this forum...butit was the only compromise I could come up with that worked, otherwise I might have left the BB altogether It might be a solution you could try as well?

Hugz,
Zoo

"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm." - Mahatma Gandhi