And I agree - charisma comes from within. My wife grows more beautiful every year because she is more self aware, more confident, and has developed a particular style. What makes her beautiful - she smiles, jokes around, asserts her opinion. Guys absolutely eat it up (which causes many of my issues, that's another thread). It's very attractive and sometimes SCARY for me! She has lots of features she doesn't like - and for a few years after kid #3 she wasn't happy about her weight - I heard about it all the time. But it's like saying a Ferrari doesn't get good gas mileage and has a truck that's too small for your luggage. It's a Ferrari!! Classic Ferrari's - who like my W have a little grey hair - are even more beautiful.
Now I shouldn't be offering any advice about how to become more confident - that's my struggle as well, and my thread would show that I have a LONG way to go - but I would think a 180 that makes you feel better about you would catch his attention.
