The year of not my problem

[AJM]

Thank you both. It is a relief to have the medication figured out. Still a pain sometimes to be the responsible adult here, but I also see it as a badge of honor.

Friday was fun. Got a text from the ex. She was in an absolute rage. The issue was our daughter getting in trouble for being late. Naturally that must be my fault. Some of it has been - I've gotten her late to school a few times. But the rest of the story.... well nobody asked before the rage began. Interesting. I just let it go. There was nothing to say, but it's a pain to be villainized that way and for really what amounts to something the ex caused. In other words, if she hadn't made the choices she did, this wouldn't be an issue that had to be face. And if she was more of a parent and got the child to go to sleep at a reasonable time (fairness: she is a teenager - they are funny about sleep ) .... the list goes on. Being threatened by legal action.. that let me know that this was nothing to argue about. Just rage. Pure rage.
My guess is that we won't be able to so much as say hello for years without there being something else behind it. Ok. Can't change that. Sadly, it will only hurt the kids - there is no more to hurt me with and I knew that was possible when I shut that door. What gets me is that I can see where I can manipulate that situation to my and the kids advantage. The issue is one of morals; that's not the right thing to do. She would do it to me in a heartbeat - I know that - but it doesn't make it right. Not even for my kids in many cases. Where it does and I can see that clearly, I have no hesitation in doing it. But otherwise, I leave it alone.
She has some need to be angry at me. I have no need from her. Seems logical and morally correct to let it drop even though it does annoy me (can you tell?) Seems like this might be somewhat normal too, when it comes to divorce. From what I've heard anyway. First time I've done it

Just venting again. Catch you later,

AJ