Sage, Opt found this on Hud's thread... a quote from you. Any more thoughts on this issue? Did you call a DB counselor about it? Any insight would be appreciated.
Quote: So...I wanted to comment on this...during my h's a, I read a lot of books that depressed the heck out of me re. "Nothing can be fixed until the a is over and the S is recommitted to the m" but I honestly DO NOT remember DB/DR espousing this...in fact...I had a phone consult with one of the DB couselors early on because the website said something like "How to DB in the presence of an OP".
I have NO idea (obviously) if w is involved in any way, shape or form with someone else...but I'm living proof that one CAN DB effectively in the presence of an OP. Ellie (kml) is another person that falls into that category. IOW...please don't let that possible uncertainty keep you from DB'ing.
More later, friend... Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
