Kevc, the weekends are the hardest for many of us. In my own thread a posting caused me to question my short term goals and plan. I retreated and caved most of Saturday stuck on the “what if” rollercoaster. That is until I spoke with my DB coach and my D about it.

I was able to accomplish one thing yesterday to make myself feel better. My SIL needed a home repair. I am her landlord so it is my responsibility. Don’t want anyone here thinking I am a doormat. What made me feel better was it was taken care of in less than 24hrs. She remarked on that, and as side benefit I know it will get back to W.

My point; IMO you would be better able to cope with the ups and downs of this if you could find things to do outside of the drama that make you feel good about yourself.

What drives you to feel better about yourself outside of your M?....... Do a little more of it.

IMO, GAL is about boosting your self esteem and distracting from your sitch so you can detach. This makes you a better person. This makes your 180s more sustainable especially if they can be included somehow.

I need to GAL more on the weekends. What are you doing?

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Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55
D 30
S 27

You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill