Changes are here to stay regardless. I want her to take me back for who I have and will become. I still struggle with worrying about how she could react to my words or actions.
This is plan H.O.P.E. It isn't really a plan. It just drives LBH's crazy and gets them no further towards their goal. What should their goal be? Detach from the outcome. You can do everthing *right* and still not get your desired outcome for your M. Your W has said that she doesn't want to be M to you, right now.
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So all I can hear inside my head is the voice of my family members who tell me that I am making it to easy on W and rushing to fix things.
If that is what they are saying. . . I agree with them.
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She had kids all week, no break. When I talked to her I could tell she needed break.
Mind reading
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She wanted that break by having me take kids and I did that cause I didn't see them and missed them something awful.
I can understand the thought of missing them.
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She recharge at shower and goes home and erases more of me from my bedroom.
Because she is very close to being done. Her emotions change too. She doesn't always hate you she stills feels some love for you but, she may not have all of IT figured out yet. One thing though: she is further along then you are. You need to catch up.
This is not easy.
Strength for you and your kids.
Will
"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others." Solomon Ibn Gabriol
