Former MIL called me this morning. She had emailed me and Dan to inform/request that the kids go to see SIL and the nieces (my kids' cousins) for one niece's fifth bday party in two weeks.
This was crappy bc my mom had just told me the day before that my sis was having my niece/her daughter's bday party on that same day. However it is a saturday that is Dan's day and my mom knew that. She said she hoped he would switch with me. Well, he would if there was nothing going on but since his niece (I consider them all my nieces though and always will) has a party that day, he gets the day. I won't even mention it to him or ask him.
So I texted my mom friday that the kids would not be at the party and my mom replied "Well it is sad that they haven't gotten to go to any of their 3 cousin's --my sister's daughters--birthdays this year"
That ticked me off bc my mom loves to play the guilt card. And they know my custody schedule so if they have all the parties when the kids are supposed to be with Dan, and I can't switch for whatever reason, then it isn't my fault! Ugh.....if my kids being there was so improtant they would ask me first which day worked for me. And if Dan has them and they can't come then what good does it do to try and guilt me about it? Like I enjoy not having them there...
ANYway, MIL calls to see if I got her msg about the bday. I said yes, I did. I hadn't replied bc it isn't my day with the kids. Then she starts listing Wednesdays where she can't take the kids (Weds is Dan's day). I knew one of the days he was going to be in Mexico but I told her I was not aware he was going to be gone the following Weds as well. She said she thought he would, I said oh I will have to talk to him I haven't heard that.
Then she tells me that she and FIL will be taking kids to the bday party at SIL's 3 hours from here, bc although Dan will be back in town he has to stay and do cattle chores. [This is annoying bc he travels 12 days a month as it is then when he has them he takes them to his parents' to do farm chores so they don't get much time with him. But not my problem.]
So I said, very nicely, "Oh, that's too bad he won't be going too, I know the kids miss him when he travels a lot.
And MIL replies, "Well, if he is going to provide for the kids and for you and himself then he will have to work"
WTF????
The man gives me x dollars a month and still has 1.5x that amount for himself. And when he made 1/6 the money and never traveled, I never complained. I don't care about the money.
Besides when he was my husband and the kids' dad, it was his job to support us (I mean I work now but he was supportive of me being an at home mom too). He chose to cheat, he chose to move out, he chose to get the house he got that requires extensive remodeling, and he chooses to keep having his cattle enterprise. All of which require $$.
Sorry it just pisses me off that she said it like poor Dan he has to work so hard to pay child support and alimony. Grr.....
