When i was referring to friends and family, i was talking about my support network, not W's. Most of my people think that I am nuts to have let this go on for this long. Having been here and talking with them combined with the anticipation of leaving the kids again is what drove me to talk with W yesterday.
While i do agree that I dont want to escalate things now, I think my biggest problem is that I feel like this isn't a controlled separation, while she probably thinks she is being mire than fair. We did not agree on any of this ahead of time, and I do realize that the longer things stay the way they are now, the harder things will be for me if things turn south. I'm sure she knows all of this too. I still think she was honest yesterday when she told me that she's trying to figure things out and hasn't had the space to do so...
BITS M: 35 W: 35 T14, M11 D9, S6 ILYBINILY: June 09 Unofficially Separated (long distance): 1/2/11 W came home: 3/17/11 EE: July 2012 Dropped the rope: Oct 2012 Piecing: April 2013 Not piecing: April 2014 Stuck.