It's me that's cycling!

[Sanderika]

Cas

I think the evening was wonderful. I am beaming with joy at your celebration with H and D. Under the circumstances, I think it is a gigantic positive leap forward.

I mirror much of what GAG has already said.

It appears to me that H was trying really hard to put on a truly wonderful birthday for you. It would make sense to me that he did so out of genuine love and admiration for you. He went to a lot of work and thought just for you

It would be very nice and appropriate of you to send H some more thanks and gratitude for doing what he did, keep it warm and real (don't pour it on too heavy). Perhaps you could open the bottle of wine with your "take home" meal and then call/email him to reaffirm your pleasure with his choice.

OW IS GONE. With that being said, H is now free of her controlling eyes and ears and can think about HIS wants with a clearer mind. IMO, H chose to think about you, H chose to do a wonderful birthday for you. I think this should be taken for what it is and not to be analyzed looking for any negative motives. Remember they only do what they want to. Your H wanted you to have this evening.

I think this is when we can make something happen or drive them backwards. AND this is where it gets really hard to make the right decision on behavior and comments to keep them interested in pursuing a reconnection with us. For me I keep a distance and am reluctant to go out on a limb because I do not want to be jilted and hurt. I have doubt that I am doing this right. I cannot help being very reserved.

HIGH FIVE to daughter for her oh so sneaky peek for the photo!!!
I love it!!!

Other than a second thanks from you, I think it would be appropriate for you to go on his leads for now. Let him come out of the tunnel at his own comfortable pace. Let him be the initiator/pursuer, I feel you will be hearing from him.

After reading your debrief, I have a feeling H had a great time with you, after all he kept the evening going on with more wine and a movie. It will be interesting to see what transcribes when H drops your car by in the morning.

(((((Cas))))) BIG Hugs To You!!!!

Sanderika