Hey Grrrrlll, dropping by with spice cake and candles -- we share December as Beginning-to-DB month (me in 2002).
Lighting a candle in quiet repose and gratitude.
Thanks for helping keep me sane and focused. Thanks for helping me see that I contribute to making things crazy -- and helping me sort this out.
I am not piecing -- nowhere near it -- but most days I'm ok with my situation. I am hopeful (that's where I post) for myself nowadays, also for my estranged H -- not together but separately, we're surviving.
I now want to go back (like you) and skim over my posts. Let's see the trajectory -- I've come through "the accident" (like your analogy) scarred but still able to get in vehicle and proceed.
Thanks for calming me down.
Singing happy holidays to you. And many many happy anniversaries, too.