She is not done yet. If she were truly done you wouldn't see her showing up at your C sessions. She is however waiting to SEE the new you and if those changes will last. Remember no pursuing.
I would suggest that, for now, no more talking about your changes. Just let her see them. You have talked with her and she heard you. Let your actions meet the level of your words.
I saw my Wife as a wounded animal in the sense that she was wary of me even if I was there to help her. She was waiting for the feelings of safety to return. Waiting for me to get rid of the eggshells that she was walking on. Which me was going to show up? Was it the new me that tried to respect her, or the one who didn't respect her judgements and was subject to angry outbursts? Who does your wife want to show up?
I also thought of another book:
His Needs, Her Needs, for Parents. (A little more focused for those couples with children)
I had to go back to my old way of brushing my teeth. I was making myself sick. . .
"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others." Solomon Ibn Gabriol
