Ok, so time for you to back away and redraw boundaries, right? You got info, you were pursued, you feel like you took a huge step back....
Maybe not. If you freak and beat yourself up, nothing good comes of it. So let's call it goodbye sex, not he's coming home sex. Some closure for you after an emotional, validating conversation.
Stay busy, keep saying No as often as you can/it feels right, keep being positive about his efforts to change (when you happen to notice them), and don't chase him or lay everything out on the line next time you see him. Make him ask you to talk and then decide if you want to or if Bond is right and he's just crapping on you.
Faith is, at one and the same time, absolutely necessary and altogether impossible. --Stanislaw Lem
