I have not read your sitch at all but your last post caught my eye
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Either I am #1 in your life, or not in your life at all.
IMO, if you give him an ultimatum like that, you better be prepared that he may choose "not in my life at all". As I said, I am not sure where you are at right now...maybe you are "there".
It is always better to wait 24-48hrs and see if you still feel that way!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
VSD, breathe, change your scenery, change your focus, get off his FB, and take a walk outside. Deal with this again after you've had a chance to detach from it
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
Thanks, I did take a short drive and know it is what it is...whatever that is. in about 50 hours I will know what lies ahead for me. Normally I would have sent a text "WTF" Today I choose not too. It is so odd for him to put that out there for friends and HIS family to see. It might be nothing
me:51 H: 48 No kids together M:14 years seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11 Piecing 09/14
I may be going against the grain here, so take these suggestions with a grain of salt.
Your H has made his choice. He has announced to the world how much he adores the OW and how little he respects you. That one post speaks volumes. Especially when they are already spending time together.
IMHO here is what you need to do: 1) Send him a text that you can see that he made is decision and that you are no one's "backup plan". No explanation is needed. Just send that to him. 2) Put his clothes packed and in the curb and text him that that's where they are.
Then spend the weekend with supportive family or friends. And through it all, DO NOT contact him or answer the phone if he calls. Start rebuilding your self-esteem and self-worth.
YOUR SELF-WORTH IS NOT MEASURED BY HOW YOUR H SEES YOU, BUT HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF.
He will not be making a decision until he sees that he has lost you and it is his loss not yours.
This is what precisely will happen, he will either cry and say how YOU could be so cruel, etc. But don't give in. You aren't the one who was unfaithful. You have no right to have a guilt trip put on you. He made a choice to step outside the marriage. Not you. He is the one who should be licking your shoes, not vice versa.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
He is due home in a few hours. How do I act, what should I say or do? He knows that I am expecting some "conclusion" tonight. This is the either the day that I have dreaded most, or the day to start piecing.
me:51 H: 48 No kids together M:14 years seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11 Piecing 09/14
