The year of not my problem

[AJM]

Still waiting on the real reply. So far her laywer indicated she wanted more money. At first I was a bit ticked, but I look at it differently now. I remember two things:
1) just because she asked or wants, doesn't really mean much other than longer delays at a time when I want this done and over with. Just drags it on longer is all. Somebody once told me that marriage is about love and divorce is about money. Seems that's true.
What she is asserting (her or her lawyer or both?) is that there is more equity in the house than my offer reflects. Really? Hmm... Nope. Checked with the real estate agent and had her re-run the numbers. Have you read the papers lately? Lived under a rock? The market is pretty bad these days. Sent back a reply to my own lawyer with the way I see the figures. If I'm right about the numbers, she walks away with about 3.5K if the house sells at appraisal value. Not likely, but what the heck right? More likely is that she pays money and I just end up out of my home. Weird, but then again not....
2) I was getting angry and I remembered back when she was struggling with all this. Don't get me wrong, I was too, but that's not her doing per se. I remember seeing her not sleeping, getting skin ailments, being depressed, and generally having a difficult time. She once told me she almost pulled over to the side of the road to throw up and didn't because she was worried she would never stop. She was a mess.
I know now that it was nothing to do with me. Her issues are hers and are self-inflicted. But it gives an idea of the mess she was (is?) I can't have anything but pity at this point for that. Even if she is evil incarnate towards me and selfish beyond belief, (evil incarnate is just a joke - gallows humor to some degree - I don't really feel like that - just annoyed at the junk that comes with this - kind of a drama queen about it right? I can't honestly say I loved her and want that for her. I mean really. Could anyone want that for somebody else?
I remember it was part of my decision to let go. To no longer stand in her way of filing for divorce (as if I could, right?).

Anyway, just venting. And waiting. I don't want to wait any longer. I want to move forward. I want to stop being in what feels like limbo while I wait for this junk. I am waiting because I can't see what is going to happen with my home. cie la vie I guess.

Good news elsewhere though. Work, which has been good to me and almost fired me at the same time (for other reasons) during all of this, is looking to promote me to a new position. That's good news in many respects. I've been struggling to get my son's medication shipped. When all of this was going on, I missed the part in the new benefits that indicated a 10K cap every year. His medication is 5K per month (he is growth hormone deficient). With a lot of hard work, I've got that worked around, but a new job (it's technically with a new company) would be really good. With one less person in the household, I need that because I wouldn't qualify for the workaround next year. It's been five years without a raise/review etc. The new job is very different but a good thing. More of a management track and includes an international component - travel. I'm excited to see if I can land it and take on new challenges. It isn't official yet - still has to go through the process. We'll see.

Take care,
AJ