I received an unpleasant reminder of the state of our R the other day. Totally put me into a full blown fight/flight/panic reaction that it took me several hours to recover from.
I spoke to my DB coach and have developed a plan in how to deal with this latest development.

However, what do I do to make sure my H understands in no uncertain terms I will do nothing to encourage or facilitate a D, I do not agree with it, I think we have something salvagable between us. (I know I daren't say I love him, although if anything and paradoxically my feeling has grown for him lately in some ways, and in others...meh.)

I know one member here had a great way to say it, but I can't find it.

Help, please?

BITS
Me-51, WAS-52
Kids 2
M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013
Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice.
Love is a action and choice you make, every day.