Don't let a stupid thing like FB validate who you have become on this journey and who you are. People use the internet as a billboard and not a window. I say, if you have to use it in that context, you need a life!
My H has blocked me on FB periodically from his wall, commenting on pictures etc. He couldn't wait to change his status to "Seperated". He's removed and/or hidden any pics of us where he was/wasn't tagged in. I called him out on it a few times. I'm like really dude? YOU blocked ME? I have never blocked him nor have I put my status out there. What purpose does that really serve? It just shows HIS continued lack of immaturity and how lost he really is. Also, if makes him feel not as guilty for his role in demise of our M, then I wish him good luck with that. At the end of the day, he can move, get new clothes, get a new skank, get a new haircut etc. But the problems he has are portable and they will be with him his entire life unless he gets some accountability and professional help. It doesn't matter that WE had problems in our M; BOTH of us had problems BEFORE our M. The difference is it took him leaving that gave me the shot in my arm that I needed to start MY journey. He thinks because HE was the WAS that that he is in control and has his sh!t together. It's nothing but smoke and mirrors for him. The reality check he needs will come and he will realize the person I am now is the person he fell in love with all those years ago but even better. The question is how willing am I to leave that door open ajar. The question will be are you?
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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
