Sparks - I am going to try to aim for that approach. Do something with my son and see if she show's interest. Aye or nay, it doesn't matter. But I will mention to her that our son would enjoy it if all of us can have some fun
I don't think the time is right for you to be asking her for a family day together. I know if I was packing up and getting my stuff out of the house.....that would be the last thing I'd want to do would spend time as a "family". Cold, huh? But it is what it is.
Don't do things with your son to see if she notices. You don't have a R with him in order to get her attention. You have to get this mindset that you build your life on you and your child--and mentally set her free of any part. No family outings.....no date nights.....you don't spend time with her. She doesn't want to be with you, and you should never use your son as your ticket to be with her. I'm sure he would enjoy being with both parents, but she has to find out how it's going to be when the parents are split.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
