Hi everyone, Im at my wits end. I am trying to save my marriage. My H walked out in dec2010 He was having an EA but claims that has no bearing on him leaving. He has blamed me for everything. Reasons like, didnt appreciate him, never said thank you, didnt show enough affection, etc. I have believed this has been my fault and cant get past it. He filed D papers a month ago. Since then i know he has seen OW atleast once since she lives in another state. I just cant believe this is happening. I ve been trying the LRT but i really dont think its working. Ive had very limited contacted with him, usually thru texts but none for the last 10 days or so. I have to sign papers tomorrow regarding his reasons for wanting out and my atty has advised me to counter petition. I know it is to protect me but it doesnt give the impression to H that i still want to save this. We have been married 29 years. Together 34 years so this is so devastating. There were past suspicions on my part that there may have been OW but of course it was always denied. How come I cant hate this man? All the pain he has caused me and our children. How hard is it to save a marriage? I know i have made mistakes. He just doesnt care to listen to anything i have to say. Of course i did go through my manic, crazy state with him after he left, lots of calls, emails, texts, and a couple of weeks ago H said the best thing i couldve done was to leave him alone. Have i screwed this up? Did i make to many mistakes? I just cant believe this is the H i married 29 years ago. Any advice you guys could give I would love to hear? Alittle more info. H left 9 years ago for the same reasons,stating all my fault, but came back after 3 months. I cant understand how H could just throw all this away. We were a tight family. This has devastated my children. They have reached out to him in emails but he wont respond.I personally have been trying to make changes for the better for myself but it is so hard. Plus he isnt here to see it. I just dont know what the next step is. I believe if we could just sit down and have a "talk" things would get better. He is avoiding it i believe purposely. Its like he doesnt want to be tempted. THanks everyone.
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Me:51 H:56
S:27 D:25 D:
Moved out: 12-06
Bomb 12-10
M: 29 yrs.
T: 34 yrs.
D Papers: 2-07-10