WAW tearing up our family part II

[ironMan]

UPDATE:

Last night, I got home from the gym and had some time before she went to the gym. She brought up the subject of what her and her C were discussing.

She said that although she too had considered switching jobs .... that her and her C had agreed that she already had enough on her emotional plate right now.

She said "I'm not as strong with change as you are".

I told her that changing jobs was scary for me too. But, my hand had been forced by my company's actions and I couldn't ignore the opportunities that sought me out.

Anyway .... she went on that she is really "emotionally unstable" right now. I said I was sorry to hear that, and asked why she felt so unstable and what unstable meant.

She said that she was having a difficult time dealing with the emotional part of deciding to leave.

I said I was surprised to hear that, since it was something she pushed so hard for. And, if it was what she wanted ... why would it cause so much emotional tension for her.

She was very nice and wanted to discuss it with me. And said that I deserved to ask questions because it involved me too. I said that I appreciated it .... but that she didn't have to answer questions. And I said "this is not what I want. It wasn't my decision. I do know you were unhappy, and I apologize for my contribution to that."

She then said "thank you for saying that. You know, I was just telling FRIEND the other day .... that you had become a totally new/different person lately. You share your work/job stuff with me and really listen to mine. It was never like that"

I replied that yes .... I was a new person now. A better one.

I should also add ..... she's been giving me pecks on the lips recently.

She's obviously very confused about what she wants. If I were unhappy as she says she was ... I'd feel great about getting out.

So, no great news here ... and I think she's going to have to leave just because she feels like she has to. She's also playing off any worries about the decision as "having to get emotionally used to the changes"

The problem for me now ..... is I'm caring less and less. I really do deserve better than this. And .... I won't be waiting forever. Fit guy, decent looking, makes good money, very intelligent .... I hear those are short on the marketplace and somebody would probably APPRECIATE such a guy instead of crap on him all the time.