How long should you try? Until........

[CT Yank]

C_S

The odds are, you are right. It doesnt crush their reality though, it would take a miracle to do that, but it does make them question it.
Anything positve, moments, changes in you, anything, makes the WAW question her decision. WAW's dont like to question their decisions. Its the same reason why, when they first walk away, you are responsible for 100% of the problems in the marriage. Why do you think none of them want to go to MC? When they are done, they are done. They dont want anything or anyone to make them question that decision. They want it to be easy and remain easy.

So keep up all the positive changes and good things you are doing. The more you can make them question the better off you will be.
Im 11 months post bomb and D is sched. to be final 4/6. I probably wont save my M, as I made too many mistakes early on. I made her decision easy back then. But when I started to do things right , I saw big changes in my W. She has doubts now, even cried at our last court date, so now its a hard decision for her.