Wow. It's comforting to know I'm not the only one that struggles with these things! I'm not sure we can ever rid ourselves of these insecurites totally, but just to recognize them and change how we react is a huge step. Thanks for sharing this Sage-I for one have always thought that I was different from other people for feeling this way. I'm learning to recognize when I'm reacting to these feelings of insecurity and not to project them on my H and others. Instead of withdrawing into myself now, I'm telling myself that I AM lovable, and just because I'm having these feelings, it does not make it truth. IT DOES NOT MAKE IT TRUTH! Rachael