I have noticed one thing in common for the success stories I've read here on the board. It was when the LBS was able to set the WAS free.....truly free in his heart....and move on with his life as if she would no longer be an important part of it. But that's something that the individual has to do for himself. If/when he can....the M stands a good chance in the W turning back to him and wanting to work on the R. I don't know how to explain it other than to say it is human nature. It's attitude that you can't give to a person....you just have to get it for yourself. When you are able to move forward ,and I don't mean with a D, but mentally moving forward with life....it takes all that negative energy from you and the W likes what you have become.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
