This is good and bad. Seeing your W on a daily basis like say Denver or Bolt is tough. It is also hard to keep your emotions in check. The time apart will serve it's purpose if you use it correctly. It is hard and gut wrenching specially since you are keeping the kids. My D is my weakness. Also you can use the time away to detach and think. You will have your moments of anger when she does not call, this can be a benefit also. When she does call and you are going through anger, let the voice mail pick up. Take your time to call back when your mind is clear. Sound happy on the phone and be excited for her when something goes well. The most important part is to remember that distance and time can be your friend if you use it wisely.
I believe the distance will give the W a reality check that she isn't expecting or prepared for. Especially being away from the kids for such a long period of time. The longest she has been away from them is about 2 weeks and that only happened once. Heck, she hasn't been away from me for more than a week at a time for nearly 15 years.
As for me, I'm sure the distance will be a challenging time. I plan to use it to my advantage. Take care of myself, the kids and keep my eye on the goal. I'll definitely be leaning on this forum for support.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
