In the book [edited by dbmod: advertising, particular book is not recommended] the author actually mentions the Seinfeld episode where George does the opposite of whatever he'd normally do and his life takes a turn for the better. Even if the rest of the book didn't describe me so well I'd be a fan simply for this reason. It's inspired me to make a list of things I have done vs. what I need to do.
1) When I have the urge to sacrifice something to make W happy but deep down I know I may resent it later - I don't do it. I calmly explain why.
2) When my efforts to make W happy don't seem to work do not try harder - just stop, show her I care, and let it pass. Everyone has moods sometimes.
3) When things are scary and uncertain - don't insist on reassurance, don't get upset, don't hold on too tight. I keep my head.
4) When I want her - make her want me. When I want to go to her - make her want to come to me. When this is hard to do I hit the gym and listen to music.
5) When I am insecure about potential OM - I give W freedom (up to the point it doesn't impact one of my NUTS - see book by similar name).
6) When I feel like sitting in the house all day - I get up and leave.
7) When I am dwelling on my situation - I do something for someone else.
8) When I feel alone - I call up a friend, or visit this site.
9) When I get the urge to talk too much - I shut up and enjoy the quiet. I try to convey my meaning in unspoken ways, using body language if I can.
