Turned a corner

[MrBond]

IMO, this is the action you should take...

Do not call him over the weekend. Go out and do something fun. Go out for yourself. If he calls or tries to call, let it go to VM.

You need to take this time to rebuild your self-esteem quick. In fact, spend the weekend to get yourself made up. Hair, new clothes, etc. This is for two reasons: One, when you start taking care of yourself, your self-esteem will start coming back. And two, You have to physically show him you are a different person.

Let's reverse this thinking of yours. He isn't the one who gets to decide. YOU DO. He is the one cheating on you. You are not the second choice, you are the number one choice. You have value and it's time for you to show it.

Think of it like Sandy at the end of "Grease". Do you remember when she was dressed plainly and acted meekly, none of the guys were interested. But if once she started wearing the leather and with attitude, they all changed.

That's how you need to be. Not for him, but for you. To get your attitude back and if he isn't willing to want you, well it's his loss.

The way to get him back is by having him WANT to come back. Not out of pity, but out of lust and love for you. In fact, when he comes back, don't be home. Go out. Come in late as if you had the time of your life. You have value. Show him that if he doesn't see it, other people do.

You can do this.