I go to the gym regularly. I meet with personal trainer on Saturday (3 times per week with him). I have a guy coming to do an estimate on a tile backsplash that I really have wanted to get done since August. I have an awesome book that I've been wanting to read that I am going to finish. Other than that, not a heck of a lot.
Lost, where is the fire you once had??? Come on girl! Pick yourself up and get moving. You have lit a fire under me so many times, so let me do the same.
You know what to do. Remember, good times and good vibes can be contagious. Next time he is in the dumps, plan something fun and tell him he can either sit there and mope or go with you. If he goes, make it fun. If he doesn't, make him wish he was there. Either way, you are going to have a great time!!!
Keep us posted!
BITS never walk alone!
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
LIS, I pray you are well. We're here for you. Ironman posted this a few days ago.
Originally Posted By: ironman
Take this as a chance to do whatever you want to do. You don't have to worry about what your H thinks or when you'll be home.
It is a blessing in disguise.
Two nights ago I made dinner for myself. It was a simple skillet meal, but it was one W would have never agreed to. It had shrimp in it, OH MY. I know this may seem lame, but I’m looking for the silver linings.
W is not allergic to seafood. She hated the idea and it was an argument every time.
Friday, I will attend a fish fry for the first time in years just for the social interaction.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
Been awhile. Lots has happened since I last have been here. He came home again and said he wanted to work on the marriage. I think that lasted 3 days before he was done again. We've been at a standoff since. Mostly, I just tried to steer clear of him and let him have his space. Finally on Thursday, he came to tell me that he wanted a divorce. He said, "it's so hard to say the words, but yes, I definitely want a divorce." He then left again. Yesterday, he came back for a few minutes, packed up a bunch of his stuff, and told me he'd talk to me soon. I think that he wanted to hug me or talk to me more, but I was pretty numb at that point.
I didn't hear from him for the rest of the day. Today, he texted me saying that he hoped that I was ok. I thought it was nice because he hasn't really been all that concerned for awhile. I know at this point he's done by that text message exchange. I know its bizarre, but he hasn't been nice for a long while. Not like this at least. It's like he feels sorry for me. I know I shouldn't read minds. That's not what I'm doing here. He's my H, I know him and I know this tone. I know that the behavior pattern is starting to change quite dramatically.
I don't have much fight in me left for this. I'm sure I'll get smacked upside the head for that, but we have to know where our limits are. I'm kind of at mine.
LIS - I'm so happy you checked in. I won't be the only one on here to tell you that now is not the time to give up. You have plenty to fight for. There are plenty of others on here that had D papers and still saved their M. Just because your H seems to have given up and mentioned the D word, it is not too late. You can do this. Post more, and we will help you through it. Take care.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
LIS, I know how you feel. I’ve been there. I am there right now. Fight for yourself. It has been a mantra in the background here from the beginning. We LBS don’t want to hear it, but for some of us it is the best thing we can do now.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
