Went out for dinner after and talked more. Even with this pseudo-negativity, W mentioned positive things about the future.
I'd realized this morning that I've been moping (probably about the move) and that there really are a lot of positives in our sitch. Haven't been doing a very good job at reminding myself of that. Might need some encouragement and/or 2x4s from the studio audience out there
After our therapy sessions, my W and I try to leave all of the heavy stuff in the room of the therapist. As soon as we walk out the doors, we try and be positive regardless of how positive or negative the session felt. This last time, we also went out for a few beers after. The talk turned from small talk about her job with me just actively listening to her, to heavier stuff about our sitch. I am not sure the moment it turned or who initiated it. I do remember reminding my W about our promise to keep R talk at therapy. She thanked me and said that she was okay talking about it. If it got too heavy, she would call a timeout. She actually mentioned that she felt more comfortable talking to me than our couples therapist which was interesting. (I don't think she is clicking with our therapist.) In the end, I think we both got positives out of it. I dropped her back off with a mind full of questions and confusion, but that is understandable given our sitch. At least it ended with a huge hug that she initiated again.
So my suggestion is to take the positives. Every small one will add up for you and you self confidence. That is important for you to DB.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
