Wife of 6-Years Wants a Divorce - pt. 4

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In my sitch, our therapist recommended that the W, S, and I make plans to get out once a week. At first it was to find a neutral place to talk about our R, but when things started to hit the fan concerning trust, our therapist asked us to keep the R talk in the safety of her office. She did, however, think it was a good idea for us to continue the dinners with the intention of stress free, no R conversation. W has agreed to it.

We have been doing this for a few weeks now, and we both seem to enjoy it. In our sitch, it gives us a chance to start having positive communication again. In the end, it is not decided if W will work towards our M or D. To both of us, it was important for the sake of our baby, to keep things positive between us regardless of outcome.

I have asked on here if my detachment goals are being harmed by this dinner, and the consensus was that it was a good idea and to keep them up.

In your sitch, I do not know how your W would respond to the idea. If you do bring it up, let her know it is for your son's interest. It is important right now for your son to have contact with both parents at the same time for their development. You can approach this way, so she doesn't feel pursued or pressured. Just make sure to keep the talk simple and enjoy the time with your on together. No R talk at all. That would send her ducking for cover.