How long should you try? Until........

[zengypsy]

Just out of curiosity, did your wife file for divorce or did you? How are you handling it, emotionally and stuff, I mean?

BITS

How am I handling it? I guess it would depend on when you ask me. Most days I don't even think about it. I am focused on the big picture and I see the D as a small piece of the large puzzle. I would be lying if I said it does not bother me but honestly I think if it goes through I will be in a much better place than she will. You know why? Because I have you guys and I don't say that lightly

I totally can relate to this statement 2. I also think it has alot to do what you said in one of your other posts. Everyone's lives does go back after to the initial shock. WE (the BITS) will be stronger and the WAS's will be stuck. Even though our friends will go back to their lives as well, they will still support us more because we will continue to represent or present ourselves better daily.

You are doing really well. You, my friend, are the one who's not as far of the ledge as you may think, not me!