Sparks, best of luck to you this weekend as your W starts her voyage. I found it easier to detach and GAL when W and I were S late last year, so I hope you can do the same.
Thanks, LP. Since the Fall, my W would spend several nights a week with OW (thought they were friends at the time). OW planned this whole detailed timeline as far as how they would proceed and end their marriages. There were several detailed steps and some have been completed. Moving into her own apartment was just one more thing on that list before she went through D. It is just creepy. That plan did not involve the A being out in the open (which I am sure put a huge wrench in those plans for the OW), but I still wonder if this is just the natural path W wishes to take. In the end, I have no choice but to support her. I just hope that she really is doing it for herself and to self discover on her own.
She has been living in the dining room of her brother's apartment for the last month. Even though it is separated from our house, it has not been the best place for her to spend time alone to think.
I do hope that it will be easier to detach and GAL with her at her own place, but on my end, it will be no different than the last month while she was at her brother's. I also worry about the detach part, due to our baby's needs. There are suggestions by our couple's therapist that I go there a few days a week to be there with the baby. I told my W that I did not wish to invade her space often, but a few days a week were agreed upon.
I just need to continue 180s, GAL, and detachment.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
