At least for me, my W acknowledges her role in the situation and also acknowledges my work and feelings.
Honestly, I think your W is being completely unrealistic. Especially, since she is some sort of therapist. What is so hard about saying, "I'm not justifying my actions, but I do think it's important for you to know where I'm coming from for this to work."
It was her choice to ask you to come home, it was her choice to ask you to try to work on thing (I think JTB had something similar with his W) and I believe in your post about it you said she hoped she didn't do irreparable harm.
I understand there might be some fear in approaching things that way. maybe
As for things continue to progress. We had a nice dinner out with the kids, during it my W was making a ton of eye contact (if didn't know any better I'd think she was flirting, LOL) No kiss or hug before bed, but I was s'okay with it. In reality, her going to bed earlier than me gives me time to indulged in a little Call of Duty without taking away from her or the kids.
Then this morning before work, she said Let me give you a hug. I think she went in for a kiss, but I turned my head an she kissed my cheek. She also called me the "pet name" she has for me that I haven't heard ina long time time and said "I was a good dude."
I'm trying to mentally slow things down though as we are a work in progress and I see it would be easy to just fall back again.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
