Recovering after a same sex affair - Part 3

[sparks14]

Thanks, grr. I really needed that.

I realize that my W is very confused right now. Now that the A is out in the open, there really is no support system for her. Her parents, who are very involved in her life and very controlling, are not talking to her much at all right now. It is really tough on her. She says that they are extremely upset and trying to fix her like they always have. I have had a difficult time not contacting them, but I have taken the advice on here that they are her family and not mine. I have no business getting involved.

I see my W in the last month in a position where she feels stuck, scared, and confused. She still has strong feelings for OW and is trying to figure out her own sexuality. Hopefully self discovery (if she figures out how that works starting Saturday), time with her therapist, and the time spent with me and our therapist will get her in that place. I just fear that she will go to the OW to test those feelings again. I cannot control that. If she does, I have told her that a continued affair will end up going to divorce. I don't think there is an alternative to that in this situation. I just hope my W stays honest with me during this time.

I will continue to work on myself. That is most important right now. GAL and detach. Give her space.