My L did give me recommendations, however just 2 and I know one of them would be a conflict - so that leaves 1. I may have to ask for more names.....more choices....choosing something I don't want. Since this is NOT what I want it is so hard to think about going through this again. But I will.
I used to let myself believe that if this is what he truly wants he would be doing the work to make it happen, but I don't think that anymore. It is clear that he sees D as a simple legal process - and wants it to be that way (mediation). Besides in his mind, our marriage was over before he chose to have the A. He is a L and has even mentioned that this should be a simple process, and that this is the way "educated professionals" handle D.
Somedays I wonder if he's just giving me the time to eventually want it as much as he does so I will proceed as he has asked/demanded - that I get a L to "handle" our divorce. The keyword here is OUR. Maybe he thinks some day I will think that this is OUR D. I don't know that I will ever think that. I do know several people that have done this only to later hear their X tell their kids and friends that SHE divorced HIM.
Somedays I think maybe he is hoping to push me to the point that I will do all the work to have it over. I guess I'm not there yet. Maybe I will be eventually, but not yet.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
