WAW on the Peninsula

[LITB]

LITB:

I saw you commented on my post and wanted to come over and check you out. With so many people and so many sitch I find it hard to keep up.

I read your sitch all I can say is WOW! I have a twin! I don't know how familiar you are with my sitch but here are some similarities.

W Moved 1500 miles away already. Yours is heading that way.

MIL lives with us; actually it was my mom and her MIL.

W did 1 session with my DB coach also.

"M is indestructible" yep. I thought the same thing. We were the model of a M and we often made that comment to each other

Took her for granted

W has not been mean or vicious

OM was lurking when she first moved (child hood friend) he, I believe, is out of the pic.

Anything else?

I think that is quite a bit.

I will continue to follow your sitch but I wanted to post this after I read the first post.

I wish I would have found this website and all this info while my W was still here.

For the meantime consider another BITS at your service.

2step, thanks for dropping in.

I have been trying to keep up with your sitch. If I remember correctly, your wife moved to OK, right? I started following your sitch when I found this forum. I most likely didn't start from the beginning, as I did not realize our sitch had so much in common. I will continue to follow, as you have been doing great.

Yeah, I'm not looking forward to the W moving, but it might be the best thing for us. That's my hope, unless by the grace of God W changes her mind before that time comes. IDK.

The one thing I am looking forward to though, is the MIL moving out. I feel like she has taken complete advantage of me and my family. The W and I had a very heated conversation about this. W holds this against me.

The MIL was supposed to live with us while she looked for a job and got her own place. MIL didn't make one effort to look for a job. Not one. I would come home from working 10 hour days to find MIL watching TV or on the computer. She had my DVR set to record 40-50 hours of TV each week. Plus I didn't feel like I had any alone time with the W. There are things that I could have done differently, but I let my frustrations get the better of me. I still think that W should be more understanding of my point of view.

I don't mind helping someone, as long as they make an effort to help themselves. My W has always known this, but I get vilified for MIL's shortcomings.

Ah well. Can only make changes from this point forward.