My Story - He Cheated while I was Pregnant

[AJM80]

Feeling really lethargic this last week. Eating too much fast food, not getting restful sleep. My gpa's prostate cancer is in his spine - he's had a long full life, but it is still hard to know he is in pain w the chemo and doesn't have strong odds to beat it. Also, we've known for several months that my young son needs a "common/routine" surgery. It's scheduled for next month and is under full anesthesia since he's a baby. And, finally, my extended maternity leave ends this month and I have to quit or go back to work. The plan pre OW was for me to stay at home w kids.

So I need help - H is being caring and kind. Taking good care of us financially. Came to dr appt last week and then took us to lunch before going back to work. I need to detach and move on, but I don't know what to do about job.

Do I trust him and do what I really want/stay w kids? Or do I keep the safety net? Well, I am pretty sure I could get another job in my current, not child friendly job...so maybe my 180 is trusting him to provide for us and not undermining his need to be the provider/"man"?.

Also, his parents are coming to visit soon. Staying in a hotel, but I don't want to hand over my kids for most of the day for a week and I don't want to spend all day at my house with them either. Before I would be at work and we wouldn't have this awkward your son is making a mess of our lives vibe going -it's not like his parents are happy about this. He thinks they just take my side, because they love me and I'm "perfect". Lol - but he takes their side and tries to please them to deflect attention from what he's done. Pushing me to cave to what they'd like (which as doting gparents is sweet, but a little much). I'll think of a compromise and hopefully half the visit will be over the weekend when H us around. They want to see kids. I dunno what they'll do about seeing him. I hope they'll at least go see where he lives.

I told them about the stripper months ago when I was very concerned about H's well being. They didn't talk to him - still waiting for them to leak that they know all. Problem is, H is not acting bizarre and I am no longer worried that he's a danger to us or himself...so it only has downside at this point.