He came and had breakfast with me. He cooked. We did not talk R much...we took a short ride to beach. He brought dog food for the dog said I did not have to pay him for it.
He had a haircut scheduled and was going to put rest of stereo speakers in truck at stereo store. I asked if he wanted company. He said nah. He texted me later and asked if I needed him to bring cigarettes by as he knew I was almost out. I said sure, and that I could pay him Friday, as I did not have cash at house. He said he'd be by in a bit. He showed up, ate dinner with me, watched a bit of tv..but no R talk. Then, abruptly, said he was going to take off. I said that's fine, thanks for the smokes, and told him as long as he was clean and sober, he was welcome to come by Sunday as mutual friends of ours would be staying with me from out of town and were going to go rabbit hunting. They had asked if he might be there or could come to visit, if I did not mind. He then offered to come by and help me put second coat of paint on bedroom I am redoing on Friday..and also to help me get a few other things done to prepare for their visit. I said that would be great.
I asked then if he had found a place to stay and he said no. I said I hoped he found someplace, and that if need be when our friends were in town, he could bring an air mattress and camp out for a few nights...but that he needed to find a place. He said ok.
So, we shall see. I am in no way ready for him to just move back in with me. I need to know that he is truly committing to no drugs. However, I do think giving him a taste of what he is missing out on ...when friends are here to support me, will be good.
Any thoughts would be very welcomed. Thanks.
That's great, Res -- perfect.
Now, keep taking that exact same stance for 6 months, and let's see how he responds. I hope he steps up.
