I'd wait for others to express their opinion, but I wonder what would be wrong with telling her this event was a wakeup call for you, which made you realize you needed to improve yourself if you were to have a satisfying relationship in the future with anyone, that I need to make these changes not to save this R, but for my growth and improvement.
The changes still need to be real, and she needs to see, not be told they are real. She needs to see you are not scared or obsessed, stating this means nothing. Project confidence, be as if, this is who I am now, you have sparked my improvement, you may join me if you wish, but it will not affect me if you do not.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
I'd wait for others to express their opinion, but I wonder what would be wrong with telling her this event was a wakeup call for you, which made you realize you needed to improve yourself if you were to have a satisfying relationship in the future with anyone, that I need to make these changes not to save this R, but for my growth and improvement.
The changes still need to be real, and she needs to see, not be told they are real. She needs to see you are not scared or obsessed, stating this means nothing. Project confidence, be as if, this is who I am now, you have sparked my improvement, you may join me if you wish, but it will not affect me if you do not.
She wants a divorce but went out with me sat had wild sex and now wants to go out this weekend and talk and have sex again.
So she wasn't drunk when she said this, and she's "planning" on sex?
John, I have a bad feeling about all of this. You may need to refuse this little set-up. If she isn't using you, then it won't hurt for you to reject her invitation. If she is using you for a particular reason, then it would be your better option anyway.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
No she wasn't drunk we have been talking for two weeks. Like i said i just dont know what she could be using me for. Naw yes she was drunk when we actually had sex but not when we are talking
Sandi ur question about the physical affair i talked to my lawyer. She say she believes there was one but it has ended and my W is afraid i will find out about it, i will divorce her anyway and use it against her to get custody of our son.
Maybe he dumped her destroyed her new found self confidence and now she is using me to build it back up to make her think she is sexy again. Who knows im just speculating cause i really have no idea.
