I don't like the idea of setting "goals" to do anything with my wife without her full cooperation.
Instead, I set intentions or promises for myself for things that can move us both in that direction, with less chance of me being attached or disappointed by the outcome.
In fact, although Michelle recommends we set goals, I use that word as sparingly as possible.
I prefer to make and keep promises to myself, as I've noticed people work harder to keep a promise than they will to achieve a goal.
So rather than having a goal to get my wife back into counseling with me, I have promised myself that I will not sign the divorce papers until I am certain she fully understands my position.
That may or may not require us to have some counseling together, but either way, I am more focused on my essential path and purpose, rather than striving and stressing and pressuring to achieve a goal.
I am being the possibility of:
1) Integrity 2) Loving myself completely. 3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.
