Hello Sanderika and GAG and thanks for your responses. Sanderika I didn't want to sound cynical but I guess I've just got jaded with the whole thing and I feel that in looking for ulterior motives it ensures I expect nothing from H and anything else will be a bonus
Originally Posted By: goodattitudegirl
, (1) The first thing I thought was that H invited you to his place so that he could be sure that you know that the OW and her S are not there. Is this possible?
Yes, I thought of that too, GAG. I'm sure he would have expected that D would have told me but this removes all doubt. Then, one has to wonder why he needs me to know!!
Originally Posted By: goodattitudegirl
,(2) H initiated the invitation and is going to make you dinner. Depending on what he prepares, that could be a lot of work. In the past did he make you dinner on special occasions? Is this consistent with H's past behavior or is this new behavior?
H has always been a good cook and he cooked family meals often but we usually went out for special occasions. I can't recall him ever cooking anything for a special occasion. I think he will keep it enjoyable but simple. He won't want to look like he is trying to do anything special. So, what do you think a new behaviour indicates, GAG?
Originally Posted By: goodattitudegirl
,(3) Have you been to H's place before? If not, this sounds like a significant step.
Yes, I've been there 3 or 4 times. I was there when he invited me to have a meal when his parents were staying which was about October and before that we had D's birthday there and another night the 3 of us went to dinner and the restaurant was cold so then we went to his place for dessert. Another couple of times I've been there on invitation to collect things and he's invited me in. So, not overly familiar but not a new behaviour. However, since he hasn't ever suggested any family meals for my birthday.
So, when I reflect on your questions I get an understanding of why I feel cynical......I've had some of these experiences before as part of H's hot/cold/hot/cold routine.
The other interesting thing is he knows I am going out Fri night so that would have been the logical night to invite D (as she'll be home fending for herself foodwise) so the invitation for Sat seems an interesting choice.
