Originally Posted By: mykarma


I guess first off you need to ask yourself this question. How much do you love your husband? Are you willing to take this path for him, or do you think you'd be better of calling it quits. You need question your self on this and come to a decision.

But either way, i think this is also a time to face your own demons. Like your depression. Because even if you pursue a new relationship, these demons will haunt you. So during the time that your husband is trying to figure himself out, work on your self. Improve yourself.



Thanks for the replies so far. I know the above part is true, especially the bolded. I know there is no way I could be in a relationship right now because I have a lot of things to work out in myself. I also don't know what I would say if H called tomorrow and said he wanted to come back. I know I'm not there yet and neither is he. We both have a lot to work on.

I guess a lot of what I'm struggling with is whether hoping things work out between us will keep me from moving on. I know this is TERRIBLE and not at all GAL but I keep checking his Facebook and phone records (we share an account still). He is friending all of these girls, some are XGFs from the past that I think he may have feelings for still. He also is friending girls from bars (I know this because their profile pictures are with him at a bar). He is going through 350-600 text messages a day. Since he lives with his friends I can only imagine he is talking to other women.

I'm stalking him basically, and it's not doing me any good. I know that we're separated so he's allowed to do what he wants but it still hurts. I haven't talked to him since he moved out. He's telling everyone we're already divorced even though we're not even close. It's like I never existed. frown I need a kick in the pants.

Regarding the bold: I love H, really love him, unconditionally. I would be able to forgive him for all of this if we could indeed move on from it. I just don't know if I should. Is it possible he is just a "bad" person and won't change? Where do I draw the line? Why would he do this to me if he really loved me? I know no one can answer this for me but I am having trouble figuring out if this is a lost cause. It feels like one frown