Better days are coming for ALL of us. II

[ironMan]

LIS .... come on now. You can CHOOSE to be happy with or without him. Time for a 2x4 ...... you HAVE TO GET A LIFE.

One that doesn't depend on his mood. I think you need to start looking at this as if you're married to an alcoholic. Your life has to go on. He's not REALLY in the marriage right now ..... and nothing you can SAY TO HIM is going to convince him to be in the marriage.

So, what can you control? You can control what you do. Get back on those meetup groups. Go make some friends. Plan a fun weekend trip with a buddy or something.

Sorry, you really have to get over thinking that your H is the key to being happy. If he has to be happy for you to be happy .... well then .... fine .... you choose to be co-dependent and unhappy. You can choose that if you like. But it wouldn't be my choice.

Your H is not responsible for your happiness. You are.