Sparks...you need to stop expecting people to interpret your situation....

it is yours

we can only guess as to what both you and your wife are going through since we are not you

how you proceed is determined by the person you are

nothing I or anyone else says should influence that

people are here to listen to you
to give you some examples of things that work or don't work
to give you our OPINIONS on your movements etc


if your wife is gay there is absolutely nothing you can do to "change" that

DBing is about improving yourself, not for your wife but FOR YOURSELF

what are you doing to improve you?
to become a person you are proud of being?
to be a better dad?
partner?
role-model for your son?

these are the questions that you need to ask yourself