Recovering after a same sex affair - Part 3

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Another night with my S. It's interesting how a mother changes her attitude when she is not getting her way. When I discovered the affair, she was terrified that I would fight for full custody of our 6 month old and get it in our very conservative county.

I told her that was not my intention at all, and would be happy with 50/50 co-parenting. She happily agreed.

In couples therapy last night, she brought up the fact that with her new job, and daycare, and the 50/50, she never gets to spend time with our S. She tells me that at this stage, the mother should spend more time with the infant. My couples therapist then starts chiming in how my wife is correct, and how she has not heard many stories where custody is split this way with an infant. I had to tell my W that I did not choose this situation. My chose to have A. W chose to move out. W chose to get a job with daycare next door on the other side of town that would make it physically impossible for me to help drive S to and from daycare.

First, why on earth would my couples therapist offer these strong opinions during our session to put me in a corner. Second, where does my W come off with these new concerns.

After awhile, I agreed to meet with some kind of parenting coordinator (whatever that is). My W really doesn't know either. All she knows is that she feels she is not with her S enough.

Sorry to vent. I would, however, appreciate feedback from the post above about our last R talk. Glad we are able to hangout, talk about life, and also communicate about us right now. Thanks!